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LEARNING TO LOVE
"'Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?'
Jesus replied: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment.
And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and
the Prophets hang on these two commandments" (Matthew 22:36-40, NIV).
Someone else has said with tongue-in-cheek, "Heaven help your neighbor if
you hate yourself!" But they were right. Every normal person wants and needs
loving relationships, but if we hate ourselves we are not going to
experience loving relationships. We will unconsciously project our
self-hatred onto others and set them up to reject us, for what we project is
what we get back!
Actually, only to the degree that I have learned to love and accept myself
in a healthy sense am I able to love and accept others in a healthy sense.
What I hate and have rejected in myself, I will also hate and reject in
others. My relationships will only ever be as healthy as I am.
Healthy self-love and acceptance isn't a prideful thing, but rather, it is
learning to know and accept ourselves as we are--dark side and all. Only
then are we free to change and keep growing to become healthier and more
loving persons.
To grow in self-love we need to be fully known by at least one other loving
and accepting person--a person who will not put me down, judge or criticize
me, tell me what I should or shouldn't do, try to fix me, give me
unsolicited advice, or preach at me, but accept me just as I am. It is
through their knowing, accepting and loving me as I am that, little by
little, I learn to love and accept myself. This truth cannot be
over-emphasized for I can only feel fully loved to the degree that I am
fully known, accepted, and loved by at least one loving, trusted person.
Suggested prayer:
"Dear God, please give me at least one safe, loving and accepting person
whom I can trust with my total life--dark side and all--and through their
loving acceptance of me help me to learn to love and accept myself as you
love and accept me, so I can truly love you with all my heart, soul and mind
and love my neighbor as you want me to. Thank you for hearing and answering
my prayer.
Gratefully, in Jesus' name, amen." |
Saint Valentine
is said to have lived in Rome during the third century. That was a long time
ago. During this time Rome was ruled by an emperor named Claudius. Many
people did not like the ruler. Claudius was having trouble getting men to
serve in his army. He felt many men would not volunteer to join because they
did not want to leave their wives and families. He thought that if men were
not married, they would join the army. So Claudius passed a new law which
did not allow any more marriages. Most people thought this law was cruel.
Valentine, who was a priest, did not support the new law. Even after Emperor
Claudius passed the law, he kept performing marriage ceremonies secretly.
One night he was caught and thrown in jail and told he would be put to
death. Many young people came to visit Valentine. One was the daughter of
the prison guard. On the day of his death Valentine wrote a note to the
daughter signed "Love from your Valentine". This was on February 14, 269
A.D.
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You have a God
who hears you, the power of love behind you, the Holy Spirit within you, and
all of heaven ahead of you. If you have the Shepherd, you have grace for
every sin, direction for every turn, a candle for every corner, and an
anchor for every storm. You have everything you need.
And who can take it from you? Can leukemia infect your salvation? Can
bankruptcy impoverish your prayers? A tornado might take your earthly house
but will it touch your heavenly home?
And look at your position. Why clamor for prestige and power? Are you not
already privileged to be part of the greatest work in history?
According to a minister in Indianapolis. Knowing he would be asked about his
profession at a Rotary Club meeting, he resolved to say more than "I'm a
preacher."
Instead he explained, "Hi, I'm with a global enterprise. We have branches in
every country in the world. We have representatives in nearly every
parliament and boardroom on earth. We're into motivation and behavior
alteration. We run hospitals, feeding stations, crisis-pregnancy centers,
universities, publishing houses, and nursing homes. We care for our clients
from birth to death. We are into life insurance and fire insurance. We
perform spiritual heart transplants. Our original Organizer owns all real
estate on earth plus an assortment of galaxies and constellations. He knows
everything and lives everywhere. Our product is free for the asking. Our CEO
was born in a hick town, worked as a carpenter, didn't own a home, was
misunderstood by his family and hated by his enemies, walked on water, was
condemned to death without a trial, and arose from the dead. I talk to him
everyday."
If you can say the same, don't you have a reason to be content? |